The other day I was teaching my kids to dive. I kept saying things like, "Trust me. Just do what I say." But if you remember learning to dive, there's some fear at first. "Will my face smack the water?" "Will I do a belly flop?" That fear will lead you to pull back rather than letting yourself fall in. And here's the irony: Pulling back will cause your face to smack the water and you to do a belly flop. So the only way to experience the pain of diving is if you're afraid of the pain of diving.