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(Joshua was referencing a longstanding joke —What does a lesbian bring on a second date? A U-Haul! — that is supposed to satirize the way some lesbians rush into cohabitation. The joke is sometimes paired with a second one about gay men rushing into bed: What does a gay man bring on a second date? What second date?)

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Had gay marriage been an option when I was 23 and recently out of the closet, I might very well have proposed to my first gay love.
And part of me tried, but a bigger part of me wanted to pitch a tent in my favorite gay bar. I wasn’t alone.
When we managed to express our sexuality, the experience often came booby-trapped with secrecy, manipulation or debilitating shame.