Various beliefs you may have that suggest your own judgment or worth is less than that of other people may be contributing to your dependent behavior.

You can use Cognitive Restructuring to gain awareness of these beliefs, which probably appear to you in the form of Automatic Thoughts if they are present at all, and then subject them to an objective criticism.

The second aspect of your thoughts you may want to address concerns the perspective from which you make judgments and appraisals.

For example, an insecure suitor might approach a potential relationship thinking, "Does she (or he) like me? What do I have to do in order to get her (or him) to like me?". This sort of thinking leads to a lack of respect on the part of the potential partner for the suitor. "If he (she) is willing to do anything I want to gain my favor, he must be desperate." It is, in general, much better to approach a new relationship thinking, "Do I like her (him)?"